Hmm. I suppose it's possible that she treats everybody with the same disrespect she shows towards her daughter, but I doubt that would make me like her more. Here's what I saw her do to her daughter in just the first episode:
- repeatedly refuse to acknowledge that Rory is her own person (actually announcing at one point, "You are me!") - repeatedly telling Rory that there was no possible way she could get into a good college without attending an elite private school, making it clear at the same time what a disappointment she would be as a daughter if she didn't get into Harvard. (why Harvard? Why not Yale, which is only 30 miles away? Didn't the writers know where Yale was when they set the show in Connecticut?) - when her daughter confesses to doubts about going to the new school, Lorelei never asks her why but starts jumping to conclusions and TELLING Rory what she (Rory) is presumably feeling - at the first hint that Rory might have feelings for a boy, Lorelei starts TAUNTING her about it (didn't quite say "neener neener neener, Rory has a boooooyyyyy friend," but almost). - She then switches to accusations, coming right out and stating that she doesn't trust Rory not to get pregnant and throw her life away (because "You are me." see above) - When Rory gets tired of being taunted and accused and repeatedly asks to be left alone, Lorelei refuses to comply and keeps yammering at her. - She lies to Rory about their finances. - She commits Rory to having dinner with Evil Grandma every week without discussing it with her and then snaps at her for pointing that out. - She then blows her cover story of somehow protecting Rory by not telling her the truth about who's paying for private school by starting a big loud fight with her parents in front of Rory and blurting it all out.
If Rory hasn't suffered at all from this style of parenting, it's not because it isn't harmful. It's because the writers wrote it that way. It's actually pretty ugly.
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- repeatedly refuse to acknowledge that Rory is her own person (actually announcing at one point, "You are me!")
- repeatedly telling Rory that there was no possible way she could get into a good college without attending an elite private school, making it clear at the same time what a disappointment she would be as a daughter if she didn't get into Harvard. (why Harvard? Why not Yale, which is only 30 miles away? Didn't the writers know where Yale was when they set the show in Connecticut?)
- when her daughter confesses to doubts about going to the new school, Lorelei never asks her why but starts jumping to conclusions and TELLING Rory what she (Rory) is presumably feeling
- at the first hint that Rory might have feelings for a boy, Lorelei starts TAUNTING her about it (didn't quite say "neener neener neener, Rory has a boooooyyyyy friend," but almost).
- She then switches to accusations, coming right out and stating that she doesn't trust Rory not to get pregnant and throw her life away (because "You are me." see above)
- When Rory gets tired of being taunted and accused and repeatedly asks to be left alone, Lorelei refuses to comply and keeps yammering at her.
- She lies to Rory about their finances.
- She commits Rory to having dinner with Evil Grandma every week without discussing it with her and then snaps at her for pointing that out.
- She then blows her cover story of somehow protecting Rory by not telling her the truth about who's paying for private school by starting a big loud fight with her parents in front of Rory and blurting it all out.
If Rory hasn't suffered at all from this style of parenting, it's not because it isn't harmful. It's because the writers wrote it that way. It's actually pretty ugly.