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Richard's mom gently passed away in her sleep last night at the age of 100. She had been declining for the past 6 weeks and realized she probably wouldn't make it to her 101st birthday. Her only regret seemed to be that she wouldn't be able to best her brother Palmer in the longevity department (Palmer died 3 weeks after his 100th birthday party). Her children assured her that she HAD beaten Palmer by almost a year, even if she didn't make 101. I hope when I go that I have no regrets more serious than that.
 
Mary lived a full and active life and was beloved by all. I know, obituaries always say that, but in this case it seems to be true. She was mom to 7 kids and dozens of grand, great-grand, and I think even a few great-great-grandkids (I'm not a very good in-law, and I admit I lost track after the grandkid generation). She was a busy farm wife, nurse at the Benson Hospital, and active member of her community. She made gazillions of cookies and Swedish meatballs for church suppers and bake sales, and several hundred quilts for friends and family. These weren't fancy artisan quilts - they were simple everyday quilts made entirely from castoff clothing and old coats with the colors and textures artfully chosen. She never ran out of material because everybody in Benson knew where to donate their old coats and blankets.
 
She had been in a small assisted-living facility in Murdock for the last few years, which she seemed to enjoy right up until the end. As her memory began to fail she worked hard at keeping track of her daily activities in a notebook she called her "chart book" (a throwback to her nursing years, I think). And every day she would run up and down the hall with her walker multiple times to keep the blood pumping. She was still engaging in both activities as recently as Dec 15, when her final decline began. She gradually stopped eating, and spent more and more time dozing in the big lounge chair in her room. The last 2 weeks it was difficult, and eventually impossible, for her to talk, but she still recognized visitors and seemed to be peaceful and in no serious pain. Richard, Thorin and I had a lovely visit with her Jan 5, less than 3 weeks ago. We had brought her the latest Lena Shutterfly book as a late Christmas present and she insisted on reading every page. Her mind was clear but moving slowly. Deciphering a page took a long time, but she was clearly enjoying it. After a half hour or so, she dozed off and we left her sleeping peacefully in her chair.  I'm so glad that we made it out there for one last visit. 
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 On Sunday, my son surprised me with a perfectly thoughtful Mother's Day gift - a CD of the original cast recording of The Music Man. I lost that CD years ago when  someone broke into my car and stole the CD player. The thief was disdainful of my musical choices and didn't even bother to steal the stack of CD's, but that one happened to be in the player. Every now and then I run into the empty CD case and grieve over my lost musical. Thorin took note of that, ordered me a new one, and waited for the next opportunity to present it as a special gift. I am often made uncomfortable by obligatory presents, but this is the perfect type of gift - something only someone who was actually paying attention to you would realize that you wanted. 

Thorin then treated me and Richard to a rather extravagant Mother's Day dinner at Hector Ruiz's newest restaurant: Don Raul (50th and Xerxes). Hector Ruiz is our favorite local celebrity chef - Mexican born and French trained. We often eat at the 3 in our neighborhood: Rincon 38, Ena, and La Fresca. The food is recognizably similar from place to place, but each restaurant has a slightly different theme and each dish is unique. Don Raul is a small-plate restaurant (similar to Rincon 38) but more international in its influences. We ordered 5 plates for the 3 of us to share, which left us with enough room for 3 desserts. Every single thing was delicious, and we all enjoyed sharing and comparing them. 

Then we came home and I listened to my new CD with Thorin. Still one of my top 10 favorite musicals, and I'm delighted to have it back. 
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So Amber and Olin found this cute little house just over the border into Milwaukie, an improbably named suburb south of Portland. It's got new floors, a huge yard, and more storage space than they ever imagined they could have. It's only 6 miles to Amber's school - accessible by a lovely off-road bike path.

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 Best of all, closing was schedule for Nov 30 - right in the middle of our Thanksgiving trip! How great is that? Of course it didn't quite work out that way. By Nov 30 the sellers weren't even close to finishing all the stuff they had promised to fix and had barely started moving out. Closing  got pushed to Dec 3, but the realtor arranged the "final inspection" for Tues, Dec 1, so we could see the inside of the house before we had to fly home. We were really excited to see it and glad we did, but the state of affairs 2 days before closing was pretty disheartening.
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Yet somehow by Dec 4 (Friday) they had it all done. The papers got signed and the keys were handed over. Here they are in their new house on Friday evening.
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Of course Lena started feeling better shortly after the grandparents left the scene, and was just as delighted as her parents. Today they rented a truck and moved all the stuff from the storage locker into the house. Amber reports that Lena had a wonderful time tearing around in the empty house. 
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It wasn't the best Thanksgiving trip we've ever had. We did get to see Amber and Olin's new house, despite closing being (predictably) postponed several times. And the weather wasn't all that bad, given that it's Portland in November. Cold but mostly not raining.

But the biggest disappointment was that Baby Lena was sick throughout our entire trip. And (like dead puppies) sick babies aren't much fun. About a month ago she started day-care, very part-time to hold her place and get her used to the idea. She liked it fine, loved it in fact. But within 3 days of her first visit she started an endless rounds of colds, finally culminating in her First Ear Infection. Nothing life-threatening, just low-grade fever, whining and clinginess, and finally a spell of terrifying screaming resulting in her First Trip to Urgent Care. The antibiotic helped almost immediately except that it gave her diarrhea and horrible horrible diaper rash. So... not her usual cheerful and outgoing self. The saddest thing was that she developed sudden (completely uncharacteristic) stranger anxiety, and insisted on being held by Mommy or Daddy pretty much all the time. She reluctantly accepted me after a day or so, but cried every time she saw Richard and his bushy beard. Heart-breaking, really. All he wanted to do was cuddle her and sing to her, but she was having none of it. The best he could do was push her in her stroller and sing to her from behind.

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She did perk up now and then, especially when the baby Tylenol kicked in or when she got a special treat, like being allowed to walk out the door on her own two feet. Or even better - get to take a long look inside the refrigerator.
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Part1 is here.
Larger set of pictures on Google Photo

It was 97 degrees when we got to Portland - not what I expected from Oregon. They've been having a spell of hot weather up and down the west coast, and even Oregon is having what they think of as a  drought. (Remember, I was with people from California who are unimpressed by 2 measly months without rain. But the grass
was kinda brown and crunchy.) Thank goodness the new apartment had A/C. The apartment is smaller than their old one, but much more attractive. And they LOVE the neighborhood, right next to Cathedral Park in St. Johns, North Portland.

You can see the magnificent St. Johns bridge from their parking lot (first picture below) and out the window. Amber has already started running across the bridge to Forest Park across the river. There's a sekrit stair leading from the quiet, shady parking lot up the hill to one of those adorable little neighborhood main streets with coffee shops and vegan restaurants and cinema pubs that Portland is famouse for. There is even a supermarket within walking distance.


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Being a major bridge fan, I just can't resist inserting 3 more pictures of the St. John Bridge. The one on the left is shot from Forest Park, across the Willamette from St Johns. The other two are taken from the lower end of Cathedral Park (2 blocks from the apartment) with and without Greenpeace demonstrators hanging underneath.
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Part 2 of Trip Report

We flew out to San Jose, and spent 4 days helping them pack. [livejournal.com profile] vgqn and [livejournal.com profile] magscanner were gracious enough to let us stay in their lovely home, even though they had other plans and left town the day after we arrived. Our plan was to hang around and play with the baby until it was time to help drive the truck, periodically stopping the proceedings to take everybody out to dinner. That plan worked pretty well for Grandpa Richard, but I ended up doing a lot more lifting and hauling than I anticipated due to a shortage of helpful friends on moving day. Olin's Mom did even more work, so I shouldn't complain too much.

The 650 mile drive to Oregon went smoothly except for some serious traffic in the last 100 miles that added a couple of hours to the drive. We made a brief stop in the unlovely town of Red Bluff, California, to visit friends and overnighted in a Holiday Inn Express in Medford, Oregon. Lena did really well: 2 long days on the road and only an hour or two of fussiness. She had lots of adventures along the way to feed her love of novelty. Grass!  Riding in a shopping cart at Target! Eating out over and over again!  A hotel room to explore, with that familiar cute baby in the mirror!

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Lena has adorably turned 6 weeks old right here at our house, and right on cue she is learning the art of the "social smile."  This big smile took a lot of work. To see how it's done, check out the Google+ gallery here.
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Amber is coming home for Christmas and bringing the little one. We'll need a small baby container for her to sleep in next to her mother's bed. Since she'll probably have outgrown it by the next time she visits, I'd rather borrow than buy.

We'll also need a car seat, if anyone has one to lend. If we can't borrow one, we'll probably buy a convertible one that will be good for several years. Anybody have any recommendations for a good brand, preferably one that will fit comfortably in the middle of the back seat of a small car?  I've looked online and the number of choices is overwhelming. 
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As Little L moves into her 3rd week of life she is not only growing, but learning.  Here's some new skills documented yesterday. First, look how well she can balance her giant anime head now (at least when she is wide awake). In this picture she has actually TURNED her head to look at the window, all by herself!
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Here we see the newborn standing/walking reflex in action. At this age they can't support their weight on those spindly little legs, but if you help them out they can push back against a firm surface and even make little walking movements. This reflex disappears a few months after birth, but comes back as volitional movement when it's time to start standing and walking.
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Probably the most exciting - she is starting to pay attention to toys. This Baby Einstein Radio plays music and displays a pattern of flashing lights. You would think it would be impossible to ignore. But just the day before she showed little interest in it. Yesterday she stared at it every time it was presented and even waved her arms as if she was trying to reach towards it. This means it is now possible to PLAY with her!  Fun.
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I created a Picasa album of Lena's first two weeks and "Shared" it, but I really have no idea if I did it right. Picasa now runs through Google+, which I find totally inscrutable. The link is here. Can you see it?
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One of the things grandparents do is simply stare at their sleeping grandbaby for minutes on end. Richard will hold or rock her for HOURS, but my attention span isn't that long, so I eventually start things like the Sleeping Baby Vine Project. It turns out that sleeping babies are more entertaining than you might think. They spend about half their sleep time in the baby version of REM sleep, which looks something like this. As they sleep they repeatedly run through their entire repertoire of facial expressions, from grimace to frown to smile. Then they stretch all the large muscles in their bodies, flutter their eyelids tentatively and fall back into deep sleep. This is just a small sample of the expression repertoire. Don't miss the adorable "coo" at about second #5!

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Every day I plan to post some pictures but then the next day comes and there are more pictures and I never get caught up. So here's some random cute pictures of Baby Lena, aged 2 days to 12 days. The first shot is a 2-day old Lena responding to her first stroller ride with a typical "WTF??" expression. In the next picture she has matured into a criminally cute week old cherub, followed by what appears to be a hungover college kid passed out in the corner. But she recovers from her early dissipated phase to become a political activist, and eventually a modern dance instructor. Who knows what the next week will bring?
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Amber's baby is here!  
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After a day of early labor, things have speeded up considerably - contractions now 6 minutes apart. They'll probably be heading for the hospital within an hour or two. Or more. Or less. You know, depending on how things go.

She's a few days ahead of her Official Due Date (Nov 14). Which isn't a problem medically, but sadly we bet the wrong way and made our reservations to fly out there for Nov 12. *gnashing of teeth*  I really wanted to be there for her, but it's hard to make travel plans around an event that can easily be plus or minus two weeks. I'm sure they'll all be just fine, but I wish I were there...

On the other hand, it appears that the nurses in her hospital are planning to go on strike on Tuesday (!!!) so Monday is probably the right time to get this over with.

It's going to be a long night.
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Every now and then someone chides me for not having a will. I don't really see the need for one, since it would just say "everything to spouse unless we both die, then divide equally between children" and that's what happens anyway if you die without a will.

But I do see the need for an instruction book. It was hard enough dealing with my mother's estate, and she had everything planned out in advance and everything documented in paper files. Nowadays our lives are so full of online accounts and complicated bill paying mechanisms that it must be a nightmare trying to deal with a sudden death. And then there is all that STUFF that baby boomers have accumulated for our children to deal with after our death.

So today I started a project I've been meaning to do for a long time. I started writing up a Family Survival Guide for use in case of death or health emergency by whoever has to deal with it. Eventually I'd like to put it into a nice hardcopy format, but I started out with a Word document to capture the first things I thought of. It's already 5 pages long! The section on "Locating Assets" just keeps growing. So far it includes:

  • Financial record books (a series of small spiral notebooks)

  • Four filing cabinets and a fireproof filing box

  • A shelf of 3-ring binders with financial statements by year

  • Passwords to my iPhone and the password-keeper app on that iPhone

  • Key files on my computer, ranging from notes files to a huge comics inventory spreadsheet

  • Private page on my website with links to online accounts

  • Google docs spreadsheets

  • Broker's phone#

I've barely started the Online Accounts section. The resources listed above point to the most important ones for legal and financial purposes, but what about the 10 zillion others - social media, online subscriptions, email, my Ebay account? Which ones need to be closed, which ones should be updated to let my online friends know what's happened?

I wonder if anybody has come up with a good computer program or workbook for dealing with all this? And by "good" I mean one that is updated for modern life. I'm sure there are tons of out-of-date estate planners that never even mention passwords.
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I used to keep my online pictures on LJ, but the "improvements" to their already difficult photo gallery drove me away from that. I tried PhotoBucket, but it was very slow and had the tools for managing albums scattered all over their interface. Then I found Picasa, and it seemed perfect! I downloaded the desktop version of Picasa for managing pics on my computer and love it for that. And hey, look! You can create albums on your computer and upload them to an online photo sharing site with one click. Awesome.

I didn't realize that Google had already bought PicasaWeb at that point and was slowly starting to "migrate" it to Google+.  I do have a Google+ account, but have never warmed up to it. I liked the idea of circles, but simply cannot master the constantly changing user interface. This didn't matter because I don't know very many people who use Google+ anyway, so I just forgot about it.

Then I tried to upload some new Picasa albums to PicasaWeb and they all ended up on Google+ instead. When I go to PicasaWeb I can see the Google+ albums, but the privacy settings are different and seem to collide with each other. Both sites use the term "public" but it seems to mean different things. I prefer to make most of my online albums public so I can post links to them elsewhere. But I think that when I make them "public" on Google+ they immediately inflict themselves on everybody in all my circles, whether they are interested in my family holiday pictures or not. I'm not quite sure there - I really can't figure out what the Google+ privacy settings mean. And I still don't know if a Google+ "public" album is visible to people who are not Google+ members.

And I don't know what happens when I try to link to such an album from someplace external, like... here. Thus this entry. Here's a link to pictures from last year's Thanksgiving trip to San Jose. That ones goes to Google Plus.

For comparison, here is a link to the same album through Picasaweb.

If anyone wants to let me know how these links work for them, that would be nice. If you can view the album through both links, which one do you like better?